January 11, 2011 by
I was digging around in my hard drive and found a lot of cool videos that we used to have recorded from a few years ago that I thought I’d finally take out of the vault and share with you.
The one I’m putting up today is a video of Stefan during a Transformations Bootcamp back in 2008. He is at a mall and notices these two attractive girls sitting down in the foodcourt. What does he decide to do?
In the video, he sits down with both of them, starts talking, builds attraction, is left alone with one of them, creates a connection, and then 15 minutes later exchanges phone numbers. All caught on camera.
There is no sound in the video, so you can’t hear what he’s saying. But, you are able to get an idea of what it looks like to approach a woman, the confidence of just sitting down with them and talking, the reaction from the girls, and how it all goes down.
Watch the video below.
Here are some important lessons for you to take from this video:
1) ASSUME ATTRACTION.
To be able to sit down with two girls without hesitation and just begin talking requires a certain level of confidence. If you try to sit down with girls but are nervous and uncomfortable, the girls will notice it and probably think you’re creepy. That’s why the key is to ASSUME that they are already attracted to you. I mean, why wouldn’t they be? Why wouldn’t they want to talk to you? You would be doing them a massive disservice and withholding so much value and awesomeness that you possess! Let’s not be selfish now…
While that may sound egotistical, it’s a key mindset to have. It’s my mindset. You have to have so much BELIEF and CERTAINTY in yourself that you couldn’t even question the thought of them not wanting to meet you. A woman not wanting to meet you or talk to you is a completely ridiculous, crazy, total B.S. thought that can’t possibly exist in my reality.
2) GET TO THE POINT.
When you approach a girl and say “Hi I was wondering if I could get your opinion on something…” or make up an excuse to talk to her, it shows a LACK OF CONFIDENCE since you weren’t man enough to simply state what you were thinking and be honest and up front. Do women want a guy that has to put on a whole act to talk to her? Or would she just prefer the guy to grab his balls, be confident and tell the truth? Be confident, obviously.
When you sit down with girls and start talking, you are communicating your intent right away. They obviously know this person is there to talk to them, right? It was obvious that I was interested in getting to know them. I didn’t sit down and say “Hi guys do you know where Futureshop is?” It wouldn’t have made sense.
There’s two ways of thinking here.
First, if you believe you aren’t good enough for her, you’re right. Whatever you believe, is TRUE FOR YOU… whether it is real or not. So, if you believe you are a “7″ and that she is a “10″, no matter what you say will work. You are putting her on a pedestal, believe she has higher value than you, and this is where having all the “tricks and gimmicks” and “routines and openers” come into play. You feel the need to DO things to have a woman interested or attracted in you. You don’t believe you could just be yourself and she would be into you.
The second way of thinking is you believe you are a confident, attractive, amazing man. You are that “10″. And she is that “10″ too. You don’t feel any need to use tricks, gimmicks, memorize anything, or DO anything to impress her or get her interested in you. You can you just be yourself and do or say anything you want, and she is interested in you as a result. What is she attracted to? What are all women attracted to? Your confidence. Your presence. Who you are (not what you say). Your masculinity. Your sense of humor. And you’re able to communicate all of these qualities naturally, because you’ve developed them within yourself and you’re comfortable.
This “second way of thinking” is the NATURAL’s way. I’ve been in both categories, for years, and can say that being a natural is a thousand times more fulfilling and more effective. It’s what allows you to actually get into a RELATIONSHIP. It’s long-term fulfillment and joy. It’s true transformation and self-improvement, not a cover up.
So, to get to the point: GET TO THE POINT WITH HER.
If you see a woman you want to meet, go up and tell her that you want to meet her. If you see a woman looks pretty, go up and tell her that she’s pretty. Be authentic, honest, and confident with yourself.
3) DO IT.
There is a lot more to this video that is being explained here.
But, the bottom line is, DO IT. Do something. Get out there and approach a woman. Have an interaction. Face your fears. Be a man. Improve yourself. Do something – ANYTHING – to become more attractive and successful with women.
No… making more money isn’t going to help you. It will just turn you into the provider and women will probably be attracted to you for the wrong reasons. Having a great body can help, but if you’re lacking confidence and can’t communicate with a woman, it isn’t going to make any difference whatsoever.
The solution? Get out there, develop yourself, approach women, learn from your experiences and GET BETTER. It isn’t going to improve on your own. You have to be proactive.
Good luck and let’s make 2011 the best year yet!
Please leave a comment or let me know of any questions you have!