In 2003, I completely changed my life.

I was young, insecure, and was hopeless with women and dating.

What changed everything was a friend forwarded a special link to a website that sold an e-book called “Double Your Dating“.

It was by a man named David DeAngelo.

During those days, there wasn’t a lot of resources on meeting women or dating for men.

There was virtually nothing available at the bookstores.  And all of the magazines, TV shows (like Oprah), were geared towards women and their problems.  But there was NOTHING available for men…

“This book is AMAZING… you gotta read it”, my friend told me.

Up until that point, I had lived my entire life completely skeptical and very close-minded.

I was a computer geek.  I spent countless hours infront of the computer or TV escaping from reality.

I remember back in high school, I would often skip school so that I could come home and be infront of my computer.

As a result, I was very isolated.  I was extremely shy.  I avoided any social situation.  Had very few friends – and of course zero women in my life.  I had nothing going on besides my video games and the comfort that I gained from that.

To buy this “Double Your Dating” e-book by David DeAngelo was a huge step for me.  But, for whatever reason, I did it.

I trusted my friend and deep down inside, I knew that I wasn’t happy with my life.  I knew that I wanted more – women in my life, unstoppable confidence, and to be happy.  But those kind of ideas were out of my reality at the time and I had no idea how to go about pursuing something like that.

Immediately when I bought Double Your Dating, I immediately printed it out.

Once I started reading it, I couldn’t put it down.  Lightbulbs were going off in my head constantly and I was completely stimulated by this new reality of “becoming successful with women”.

Up until that point, I thought that success with women was simply something that you either have or you don’t.  I’d see people that would have success with women and just think “they’re just born that way” or “they’re just lucky”.  I thought it was based on their looks or something that they had that I couldn’t attain.

Double Your Dating completely shattered that for me.  It made me realize and believe that I could actually IMPROVE and CHANGE my life and the results I get with women.  It opened up a new world of possibilities for me, and taught me that I have control over myself – that I could cultivate a personality that was attractive to women, and therefor attract women into my life.

This was a HUGE “aha” moment for me.

Through reading this e-book, I learned a LOT about women.  I learned what they respond to, and what “triggers” attraction.

There’s a famous David DeAngelo quote, “Attraction isn’t a choice.”

Meaning that women don’t CHOOSE who they are attracted to – it’s based on emotional triggers.  Once they are attracted to you, it doesn’t matter how much their friends say “he’s not right for you” or it doesn’t matter if you’re not her type – regardless, she WILL still be attracted to you.

David DeAngelo talked about how to communicate with women properly.  He’s famous for teaching a concept called “Cocky And Funny”, which is similar to our “Playful Teasing” concept.  I still remember applying Cocky and Funny to the women that I would meet over the years following 2003, and how effective it was.

He taught me about the importance of humor in attracting women.  I realized how NEEDY I was, and how BORING I was as well.  I learned what attracts women and what doesn’t.  And I learned that everything I was doing, thought and believed… was WRONG.

Like I said… lightbulb after lightbulb was going off.

This totally blew my reality.

I ended up reading the Double Your Dating e-book over 7 times that first week.  I consumed and applied as much of that information as possible.  It was pure gold for me.

David DeAngelo changed my life.  This initial e-book sparked me to pursue self-improvement and focus on becoming successful with women and dating.  It got me on the right track.

A few short months after that, I ended up meeting some local guys in Vancouver who were going out and meeting women.  I still remember the day going out with them along Robson Street and seeing all of this stuff in action.  Talk about another “aha” moment…

My first approach was in Pacific Centre and it was a girl working at a kiosk.  I was terrified, but I forced myself to do it with the help of a friend coaching me.  After that, I was hooked.  There was NOTHING that was going to stop me from being the man I wanted to be and mastering the art of attracting women.

Fast forward to 2011 and my life is completely different.  I am proud of who I’ve become and I’ve reached an incredible level of mastery and success with women that I never could have imaged was possible.  Over the last 4 years, I’ve been teaching and helping men with women and dating through seminars, bootcamps and coaching.  I’ve even written an e-book called Mastering Success With Women that’s been very successful.

But, it all started back in 2003 with Double Your Dating.

David DeAngelo shaped my destiny.

I would not be who I am or have had the successes I’ve had in my life if it wasn’t for him.

I’ve gone through many of his programs over the last 7-8 years – including the Advanced Series, Mastery Series, Interviews with Dating Guru’s, On Being A Man, Deep Inner Game, Man Transformation, Approaching Women, Body Language, Cocky Comedy, etc…

He has some REALLY amazing stuff.  All of his programs are of fantastic quality and very educational.

If you haven’t read Double Your Dating or checked out his other programs, you are seriously missing out.

I know there’s many people that are pursuing success with women and dating, but haven’t bothered to check out any of David DeAngelo’s stuff.  If this is you, this is a HUGE mistake you’re making.  David D’s stuff will definitely aid you on your journey and I can’t say enough good things about it.

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I highly recommend you start out with his classic Double Your Dating e-book, then branch out to his other programs.

It’s helped me incredibly, and I have no doubt that it will for you too.

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Out of the hundreds and hundres of men I’ve now met through my seminars, Bootcamps and coaching, I have discovered certain patterns.  I’ve noticed specific patterns on what makes someone GOOD with women and dating, and what makes someone BAD.

These are things that are SO COMMON amongst men that struggle with women, that I thought it’d be worth making a post about it and sharing some ideas on how to overcome it.

One Of The Most Common Biggest Challenges Men Have With Women

The challenge is that men that struggle with women are TOO ANALYTICAL.

They are stuck INSIDE THEIR HEADS far too often, and OVER-THINK things.

I’ve said this before… there is very little LOGIC or THINKING involved in attracting women.

That is probably hard for many of your smart intellectuals to hear, but it’s true.

The majority of men that attend our seminars and courses are very analytical and inside their heads.  In fact, they basically LIVE inside their heads and are constantly consumed by their thoughts.  These men usually have careers such as engineers, accountants, computer stuff, or something related.

Now, being inside your head and being analytical has its advantages… for your career and success – BUT NOT WITH WOMEN.

Why Is Being Inside Your Head A Problem?

The reason why it’s a huge problem is because you end up over-thinking things too much and it prevents you from BEING IN STATE.

State is basically how you feel – being in a state of confidence or having fun.  To get into an incredible state of feeling good and having fun, you need to clear all of the thoughts from your mind and be totally PRESENT.  You can’t be thinking about the past, you can’t be thinking about what you’re going to say to her, or “what about this or what about that”… you have to be in the here and now.

When you’re not being present an stuck inside your head… you are HESITANT with your actions.  You hold back to approach her or to make a move.  You’re over-thinking and waiting for the “perfect” moment.

When you’re stuck inside your head and not present… you get caught up in focusing on thoughts of the PAST – “This won’t work because a woman rejected me in the past” or “Last time I approached a woman XYZ happened”.  Not only that, but you’re also focused on thoughts of the FUTURE – “What if she rejects me…?” or “What am I going to say to her…?” or “What if  she has a boyfriend…?”

These thoughts put you somewhere else and takes you away from this PRESENT MOMENT.

The Power Of Presence With Women

Presence means getting out of your head – not being focused on the past or future – but the NOW.  You are totally aware and present to the current moment.  You have no thoughts or distractions in your head.  You just act on your instincts and how you feel.  You don’t micro-manage things or worry about what to say – you just let the words flow out of you.

You have no worry about what others think of you.  You express yourself fully.  You say and do what you want.

Now… does this sound attractive to women?  Of course.

Not only that, but you are LISTENING.  When interacting with a woman, you aren’t thinking about what to say or are somewhere else – you are WITH HER.  You are listening to the words coming out of her mouth and not thinking about what to say next.

How To Be  Present With Women

What’s the solution?

Well, most people think consuming alcohol or a drug is the best way to accomplish presence.  NOT.  This is just a temporary-fix.  But this is why people drink or do drugs – it makes them fully present and puts them in the moment.  It allows them to express themselves freely.

The good news is that you can train yourself to be present while sober.  It’s a skill – or a muscle – that you build.

Let me ask you… have you ever played a competitive sport or activity before?  Like soccer, basketball, football, tennis, dancing at a club, a video game, or whatever?

When you’re out there playing this sport or activity… are you THINKING about every step and move that you’re taking?  Are you thinking about what happened yesterday or what’s going to be going on tomorrow?  NO.  You are totally present and in the moment.

If you’re playing football and you’re thinking about what happened yesterday or in the future…. BAM you are going to get nailed by someone.  You can’t be thinking or in your head.  You need to be in a STATE OF PRESENCE.

Some activities you can do to train yourself to be present are the following:

• Any sport or physical activity – it gets you fully present and in the moment.
• Meditation.  Do this everyday and practice clearing your thoughts and being present.
• Doing activities that put you in a state of FUN – dancing, parties, concerts, events, casino games, etc…
• Going out to meet women and interact with people – anything social.

These can and will help.

There’s a book called “The Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle that is worth reading.

And of course, you want to AVOID activities and things that make you too analytical and put you inside your head.

This is a powerful tool, once mastered, will make you incredibly successful with women and dating.  I hope this helps.

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I get asked all the time: “What is the fastest way to achieve success with women and dating?”

I decided to create a video that explains the 3 steps that I take to become successful at something.  It’s EXACTLY what I did that helped me become successful with women and dating.  And it can be applied to anything you pursue in your life.

Most importantly, it is the fastest way to do it.

Watch the video in full below:

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Want to become successful with women?  Find people that are already successful, find out what they do, and do that.

Pretty simple, right?

There are many resources available for you: books, audios, videos, seminars, coaching, bootcamps, etc…

It’s simple.  You can either do it on your own, which takes 10X more time in my opinion and is just stupid.  Or you can find someone else that’s already been where you want to be, find out what they did, and DO THAT.  That way is much smarter.

I’m always blown away by the people that don’t want to invest their money into self-improvement.  It’s like a barrier that they have that is seriously holding them back.  They don’t realize how much time they are wasting, and in many cases, their TIME is worth more than the money.  If they invested the time they’re wasting ATTEMPTING to become good at something into their job or a business, it would easily pay for itself.

It’s common sense to find ways to LEVERAGE and fast-track your success.

Like I said in the video, OPE = Other Peoples Experience.

Don’t try to re-invent the wheel.

So get SMART about your success with women, or anything else in your life.

Is it worth it for you to STAY at the same level, banging your head against the wall again and again?

Or perhaps the better option is to seek out answers, try something different, get coaching, read a book, etc…

It’s common sense in my eyes, except these days common sense isn’t that common anymore.

Want to fast-track your success?  Check out my e-book, Mastering Success With Women.

It’s an in-depth guide that will give you the steps and actions to take to become successful with women and dating.

Click here to download and begin reading Mastering Success With Women.

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I’ve got another cool video today that I recorded, which is also new content that I recently taught at an event.

In this video, I am sharing a powerful distinction that I learned after reading the book Mastery by George Leonard.

In it, he talks about the 4 personality types to mastery.  I’ve applied these principles to success with women and dating.

This will help you figure out exactly what personality type you are, and ultimately what you need to do to become a MASTER at something.  I’m sure you’ll find this extremely valuable.

Watch the video below in full:

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In the video, I explained that there’s 4 personality types:

1) The Dabbler

2) The Obsessive

3) The Hacker

4) The Master

Ultimately, you want to be the master.

The most common people I see through coaching and seminars are the Dabbler and the Hacker.

The Dabbler is the guy that says “I want to be successful with women and dating” and comes out to a few seminars, and eventually throws in the towel as soon as he begins hitting a plateau.  It’s easy to spot these kinds of people.  Their average life-span is about 3 months.  They will inevitably jump into something new because they enjoy that sense of progress, but eventually quit that as well.  These people don’t accomplish much in life.

The Hacker is the one that goes out every so often, goes to seminars once in awhile, and kind of “half-asses” his way through the journey.  He ultimately doesn’t get anywhere either… and ends up being in the exact same spot years down the road.  He may make slow progress… but man, it is SLOW.  This guy loves his comfort zone and just wants the “feeling” of making progress, but never actually does.

And the Obsessive, which I used to be, is the guy that pushes harder and harder the moment he hits a plateau.  He is on the pain train, and is going through constant frustration.  He makes a lot of progress and breaks through, but the journey isn’t enjoyable.

The Master requires emotional maturity.  He embodies and lives “kaizen” – constant and never-ending improvement.  He ENJOYS the journey, which is important.  And he anticipates and knows exactly how to deal with plateaus.  He is smart – he doesn’t try to do it on his own or keep pushing through.  He’ll find a mentor, a coach, a book, or is willing to take a step back to move forward.

You need to become a Master.

If you do, success will be easily within your grasp.

Want to master success with women once and for all?

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I recorded a cool new video today titled “The 3 Phases To Ultimate Success With Women And Dating”, and it is a MUST-SEE for anyone that is currently on the pursuit to achieve success with women.

I taught this content at a Mens Club event that I hosted specifically for our Bootcamp Grads, and they loved it.  It made sense to everyone and it is definitely what I would consider to be “The Evolution Of Game”.

Watch the video below in full:

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The 3 Phases that I outline and explain are:

1) The DOING Phase

2) The BEING Phase

3) The LIFESTYLE Phase

It’s important for you to identify what phase you’re currently in.

Almost everyone needs to go through the DOING phase – which is basically getting as much experience as possible with women that you can.  The people that don’t want to go through this phase won’t get anywhere or achieve the success they want.

You can have money, fame, good looks, an amazing lifestyle, etc… but if you don’t have a basic foundation of the skills required to meet, attract and date a woman, then that is all useless.

Your job in the DOING phase is to focus on the PROCESS.  Meaning, forget about results, focus on getting the skills.  I recommend going out regularly, learning as much as possible, trying and experimenting with as many things as you can.

The DOING phase is when you really stretch yourself and get outside of your comfort zone.  You need to face your fears, the rejection, and overcome all the hurdles and develop an attractive personality.

Remember, you can spend months or years in the DOING phase .  Of course, the faster you learn and improve yourself, the faster you’ll go through it.  It also depends on where you’re starting and your consistency to be able to get a specific result with a woman.

Once you evolve to the BEING phase, things get fun.  This is where results flow your way like crazy.  It’s more fun and enjoyable.  You can simply “be yourself” because yourself is ATTRACTIVE.  This is where you become a natural.

And as mentioned in the video, in the LIFESTYLE phase you are more focused on becoming an all-around attractive man who can attract higher quality women and have lasting, meaningful relationships with women.

From my experience, MOST men that I meet are in the DOING phase.  Which means they need to develop their skill set, confidence and personality.

For myself personally, I spent YEARS in this phase and I did the following:

• Went out regularly, at least 4 days per week to meet women.
• Approached at least 12 women each time I went out.
• Pushed my comfort zone, set goals, and faced my fears.
• Read books, listened to audios, watched videos, etc…
• Found mentors and coaches to take me to the next level.
• Followed up with every # I got, went on dates, etc…
• Learned and practiced all the tools – playful teasing, storytelling, touch, closing, etc…
• Did acting classes, improv classes, voice classes, public speaking, etc…
• A lot freakin’ more!!

As you can see, I went on a self-improvement journey to transform myself.  I latched onto every resource that I could that would help me become better, and committed myself 100%.

If you are COMMITTED, you will make it happen.

I hope this article and video helps you identify where you’re at, and what you need to do to get to where you want to be.

I have an awesome e-book that I’ve created called Mastering Success With Women and it’s exactly designed to help the average beginner in the DOING phase evolve into the BEING phase with women.  It’ll take you to the next level.

It’s based on 7+ years of my experience and knowledge with women and dating.  It covers everything from how to approach women, the proper mindset, creating your attractive identity, beliefs, powerful inner game, to creating motivation and a solid action-plan to get to where you want to go.

Click here to check out the Mastering Success With Women e-book.

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This video describes EXACTLY how I became successful with women.

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It is with this COMMITMENT and PASSION that makes one successful at something.

Mastering success with women and dating is no different.

How bad do you want success?

What are you willing to sacrifice?

Are you willing to do WHATEVER IT TAKES?

Even if it involves investing your time, money and taking risks?

I explain this in detail in my Mastering Success With Women e-book letter, which you can read here.

This is the secret to success.  Period.

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I was digging around in my hard drive and found a lot of cool videos that we used to have recorded from a few years ago that I thought I’d finally take out of the vault and share with you.

The one I’m putting up today is a video of Stefan during a Transformations Bootcamp back in 2008. He is at a mall and notices these two attractive girls sitting down in the foodcourt. What does he decide to do?

In the video, he sits down with both of them, starts talking, builds attraction, is left alone with one of them, creates a connection, and then 15 minutes later exchanges phone numbers. All caught on camera.

There is no sound in the video, so you can’t hear what he’s saying. But, you are able to get an idea of what it looks like to approach a woman, the confidence of just sitting down with them and talking, the reaction from the girls, and how it all goes down.

Watch the video below.

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Here are some important lessons for you to take from this video:

1) ASSUME ATTRACTION.

To be able to sit down with two girls without hesitation and just begin talking requires a certain level of confidence.  If you try to sit down with girls but are nervous and uncomfortable, the girls will notice it and probably think you’re creepy.  That’s why the key is to ASSUME that they are already attracted to you.  I mean, why wouldn’t they be?  Why wouldn’t they want to talk to you?  You would be doing them a massive disservice and withholding so much value and awesomeness that you possess!  Let’s not be selfish now…

While that may sound egotistical, it’s a key mindset to have.  It’s my mindset.  You have to have so much BELIEF and CERTAINTY in yourself that you couldn’t even question the thought of them not wanting to meet you.  A woman not wanting to meet you or talk to you is a completely ridiculous, crazy, total B.S. thought that can’t possibly exist in my reality.

2) GET TO THE POINT.

When you approach a girl and say “Hi I was wondering if I could get your opinion on something…” or make up an excuse to talk to her, it shows a LACK OF CONFIDENCE since you weren’t man enough to simply state what you were thinking and be honest and up front.  Do women want a guy that has to put on a whole act to talk to her?  Or would she just prefer the guy to grab his balls, be confident and tell the truth?  Be confident, obviously.

When you sit down with girls and start talking, you are communicating your intent right away.  They obviously know this person is there to talk to them, right?  It was obvious that I was interested in getting to know them.  I didn’t sit down and say “Hi guys do you know where Futureshop is?”  It wouldn’t have made sense.

There’s two ways of thinking here.

First, if you believe you aren’t good enough for her, you’re right.  Whatever you believe, is TRUE FOR YOU… whether it is real or not.  So, if you believe you are a “7″ and that she is a “10″, no matter what you say will work.  You are putting her on a pedestal, believe she has higher value than you, and this is where having all the “tricks and gimmicks” and “routines and openers” come into play.  You feel the need to DO things to have a woman interested or attracted in you.  You don’t believe you could just be yourself and she would be into you.

The second way of thinking is you believe you are a confident, attractive, amazing man.  You are that “10″.  And she is that “10″ too.  You don’t feel any need to use tricks, gimmicks, memorize anything, or DO anything to impress her or get her interested in you.  You can you just be yourself and do or say anything you want, and she is interested in you as a result.  What is she attracted to?  What are all women attracted to?  Your confidence.  Your presence.  Who you are (not what you say).  Your masculinity.  Your sense of humor.  And you’re able to communicate all of these qualities naturally, because you’ve developed them within yourself and you’re comfortable.

This “second way of thinking” is the NATURAL’s way.  I’ve been in both categories, for years, and can say that being a natural is a thousand times more fulfilling and more effective.  It’s what allows you to actually get into a RELATIONSHIP.  It’s long-term fulfillment and joy.  It’s true transformation and self-improvement, not a cover up.

So, to get to the point:  GET TO THE POINT WITH HER.

If you see a woman you want to meet, go up and tell her that you want to meet her.  If you see a woman looks pretty, go up and tell her that she’s pretty.  Be authentic, honest, and confident with yourself.

3) DO IT.

There is a lot more to this video that is being explained here.

But, the bottom line is, DO IT.  Do something.  Get out there and approach a woman.  Have an interaction.  Face your fears.  Be a man.  Improve yourself.  Do something – ANYTHING – to become more attractive and successful with women.

No… making more money isn’t going to help you.  It will just turn you into the provider and women will probably be attracted to you for the wrong reasons.  Having a great body can help, but if you’re lacking confidence and can’t communicate with a woman, it isn’t going to make any difference whatsoever.

The solution?  Get out there, develop yourself, approach women, learn from your experiences and GET BETTER.  It isn’t going to improve on your own.  You have to be proactive.

Good luck and let’s make 2011 the best year yet!

Please leave a comment or let me know of any questions you have!

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I wanted to share with you a quick video from one of our recent Mens Clubs for our Bootcamp Grads.

It’s about how to use dancing to attract women.

Most men don’t realize this, but being able to dance is such a powerful tool to have in your toolbox when it comes to attracting women and escalating physically with a woman.

It’s no secret that women love dancing.

Being able to dance is almost an excuse to get intimate and close with a woman.  It builds a special connection between the two of you and makes her feel more comfortable with you.  This can let you speed up the entire escalation process rapidly.

We had a dance instruction come in to speak at our last Mens Club, teaching us men how to use dance to attract women and escalate rapidly.  Check out the video below.

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By the way, you don’t necessarily have to be a GOOD dancer to be able to use dancing to attract women and escalate fast.  Of course it helps, but it isn’t necessary.

What’s more important is being able to be CONFIDENT on the dance floor and comfortable with yourself.  It comes down to being in that great state and having fun.  If you’re having fun and comfortable with yourself, it doesn’t matter if you look like an idiot or aren’t doing things properly.

If you see a group of women dancing at a dance club, be confident and dominant and get in there.  Grab her by the hand and spin her around.  Get in close with her.  Tease her and have fun. This doesn’t require WORDS… this all about developing attraction with a woman non-verbally.

You can attract women with your BODY LANGUAGE and PRESENCE.

That’s it for today.  I hope you enjoyed the quick video and please leave a comment.

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The below video is from one of our Mens Club Meetups back in September 2010.  We usually host these almost every month and go over some more advanced dating topics, but it’s reserved only for those who have been through the Transformations Bootcamp.

In this video, Cheyenne is teaching the group of men about women’s “shit tests” and how to pass them.

Just to give a bit of context, women will usually consciously or unconsciously test you to see if you’re being CONGRUENT with the man that you’re projecting yourself to be. The moment you approach a woman, she could be acting a bit “bitchy” or might say something to throw you off, like “You’re too short for me…” or might pull out her blackberry and start replying to a text while you’re talking to her.  Women do these things NOT because they aren’t necessarily attracted to you, but most often to SEE WHAT YOU WILL DO.

When these things occur, most men get emotional and reactive.  They let it hurt their confidence, and the moment that happens it’s GAME OVER.  You failed the test.  She’s no longer interested.  Do not pass go.  Do not collect $200.

In situations like these, women want to a man who is GROUNDED and doesn’t let anything affect him.  They want a man who isn’t going to react or get emotional.  She wants a MAN.

It reminds me of back in the day when men used to go into battle, how they would often TEST each other to make sure you were strong and weren’t going to get all emotional.  If you got emotional or weak during battle, they would be concerned about that and you wouldn’t get to go, as they want to make sure you’re a strong man.

Same thing with women.

By the way, women do these things a lot throughout relationships too.  They will say things to see if you’re going to withdraw and run away.  They will try to push your buttons.  They will try to change you.  They will do these things… and your job as a man is to be like a ROCK.  You’re like an oak-tree, an immovable force.  You’re there to be totally present with her and not be affected in any way.

When a woman is acting “bitchy” with you when you first approach her, and you stand there and smile and keep talking like it’s not even affecting you, she instantly becomes MORE attracted to you.  It’s no different if she takes out her cell phone and is trying to brush you off, but you stand there totally centered, present and confident and continue joking around and teasing her.  She NOTICES this and instantly becomes attracted because you passed the test.  Get it?  Good.

I hope this helps giving you some context to this video.  Enjoy!

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I would love to hear what you think.  Post any questions or comments below!

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Today I was searching through old blog posts and I came across one written by a good friend Sean G. (not the Sean that currently coaches with LT).

It all started in the Vancouver Dating Community…

I wanted to share his article with you, as it’s very inspirational and there’s some valuable advice in it.  This article is dated back from November of 2008, back in the early days of Lifestyle Transformations.  Enjoy!

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My Journey And Transformation With Meeting Women And Life

My name is Sean and I used to be addicted to women.

The story begins 6 years ago when I was burned by two girlfriends in a row. I was dating them each for a year and both of them ended up cheating on me. I was motivated to improve myself and that is what lead me to finding the Vancouver Dating community. Even though I was a pretty cool guy in Highschool playing hockey and knowing the cool people, I never had that much success with girls and when I did get one they would fuck someone else!

I stumbled upon a dating forum and through the wingman meetup forum I was introduced to Stefan of Lifestyle Transformations. Stefan wanted to improve his life because he was lonely and tired of just playing video games, watching TV and going nowhere in his life.

When we met, Stefan was shy, timid and quiet. He was the definition of a geek. When I met him I was thinking “I’m going to learn how to pickup women with this guy?” He introduced me to Cheyenne, John, Scott and a few others. Together we got the Vancouver Lair started with a few other guys.

We went out 6 and sometimes 7 nights a week. The beginning was rough. We couldn’t even ask an ugly girl on the street for directions or the weather. We spent 10 hours a day in malls, on the street, in coffee shops, in nightclubs all ‘peacocked’ out. We would talk to hundreds of people per day. We did this for 6 months straight. No rest for the weak!

We all improved quickly. The changes I saw in Stefan and Cheyenne from day one to the 6 month, 1 Year and 2 year marks were amazing. At the end it got to the point that we could talk to anyone and own any situation. I was happy with my abilities so I got a long term girlfriend and stepped back from the Vancouver dating community.

It became natural for me. Interacting with women was part of who I am. Since leaving the Vancouver dating community I have met some amazing women and had some great relationships. As my self improvement continued, so too did the quality of the women that I could land. Last year I met a girl named Colette and had the most amazing relationship I have ever had. It lasted a year and she was such a beautiful person inside and out. She was the type of girl that would make a room stop everything and look at her. She radiated beauty, had an incredible body and the best part is that she was a total sweety.

After an emotional last month I decided to end things with her and move along. She had some habits and addictions that I didn’t like. Consequently, I went on a tear as I have done in the past, sleeping with every hot girl that would come my way. I would always be with women and would be sleeping with a new one every week if not more. These girls were top notch too!

After a month of being on a tear I realized that I wasn’t happy. Sleeping with and casually dating hot women is fun but wasn’t fulfilling and I couldn’t figure out why. The reason is because I was using the validation of being with / sleeping with hot women to distract myself from some other stuff that wasn’t going well in my life: my finances and my emotional / spiritual side.

Cheyenne and John called me up one day and told me that I had to stop dating / sleeping with women. I fought it but I eventually gave in and realized that they could be right. I could be making women my primary focus to distract me from other things that needed attention. It was tough to tell the girls that I couldn’t see them anymore, but that was exactly what I did back in September. Since then I haven’t dated or slept with anyone….(okay…one exception).

The results of this a few months later have surprised me:

1) I’m making great progress on the other areas of my life that need attention. This makes me feel great and makes me a lot more fufilled overall. And a byproduct of this is that…

2) Now that I have taken the importance of women out of my life, I am attracting a way HIGHER quality of woman.

Its fascinating! I let go out the outcome and now I don’t care what happens when I am interacting with a girl. What happens is I am in the moment and we have more fun. We’ll talk about anything and what ends up happening is girls have been persuing me like crazy. The harder I pull away for my personal reasons, not wanting to date right now, the harder they persue.

Furthermore, because I am not trying to take something from these girls (a number, a date, sex, validation of hanging out with them because they are the hottest girl in the club….etc) I am now becoming good friends with a few of them. To show you the type of girls I’m talking about I will post a few pictures of my friends:

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These girls are BC Lions cheerleaders, architects, bartenders at the best clubs, radio personalities on radio stations that you listen to, world travelers etc. Its great having friends like this and its great also focusing on myself for once. Its awesome….the more I focus on improving my life the more attractive I become to women!

In the end what I hope you guys take away from this is that the more you improve the other areas of your life, your interactions with women and the quality of women that you interact with will improve. It was extremely important for me to go through the process of learning how to meet women with Cheyenne, Stefan and the rest of the guys because that is what got me started. Everything I have in my life right now can be attributed from the skills I learned by actively working on my social skills.

Once you get these essential life skills handled you won’t need to have women as your focus. This is where you want to be. You focus on your life and your life improves. The more dedicated you are to what you are doing in your life, the more quality women will be attracted to you. The more results you get in life (accomplishments, money, fitness etc) the more women will be attracted to you. Its a snowball effect. Once you get the ball rolling, the women won’t stop! They just keep getting better and better and chase me harder and harder! Keep in mind though that until you get your social skills and mindset down through practicing and coaching from men who know, money and acomplishments will never get you the kind of woman that you truely desire. Only hitting the streets and learning how to interact with women will!

Start today! Get out there! The world is yours!

~ Sean G.

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