What Are Your Associations To Meeting Women & Dating? 0
What stops men from having the success that they deserve with women and dating?
Ultimately, what it comes down to is FEAR.
More specifically, FEAR OF PAIN: fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear of the unknown, etc…
The meanings that we associate to things in our life is what controls our life, and ultimately the results we get with women and dating.
If you associate “approaching women” is PAINFUL, then what are the chances of you approaching women? Slim to none.
If you associate “a woman that doesn’t call me back” as REJECTION, then how do you think that will affect your confidence?
And finally, if you associate “a woman doesn’t stop to talk to me” as “I’m not good enough”, then you’re probably right.
Whatever you THINK or BELIEVE, whether it’s true or not, will become true for you.
Men who are successful with women have different associations/meanings set up in their head.
For example, I associate NOT approaching women as PAIN.
That’s right… for me I associate more pain to NOT approaching a woman and MASSIVE PLEASURE to approaching and talking to a girl.
It’s the opposite of most guys.
When a woman doesn’t call me back or doesn’t stop to talk to me, then I see it as her missing out on an incredible opportunity to have a tremendous amount of value added to her life.
Why wouldn’t a woman want to talk to you? Why wouldn’t she call you back? She must be crazy. You’re a man of value.
This is what you should be thinking to yourself!
Again, whether it is true or not DOES NOT MATTER. Whatever you think or believe will be true for you.
Listen… thinking positive is not enough.
You must change your conditioned responses. Your associations and the meaning that you ultimately place on certain things.
Every single action you take has an effect on your life. Everything you do is a cause set in motion.
And your ultimate destiny is based on your consistent behaviour.
Every result in your life puts you in a direction. Every direction you go leads you to a destination or destiny.
The time to design your next year, 5 years, 10 years, 20 years with relationships with women is NOW… not a year, 5 years, 10, or 20 years from now.
So, let me ask you: What are your current associations with women and dating? What are the beliefs you have, and the meanings that you associate to things?
Fill in the blanks below in your head.
1. “Women are __________.”
2. “Meeting and approaching women is ___________.”
3. “I am ____________.”
4. “Attracting women is ___________.”
5. “If a woman doesn’t call me back, it means ____________.”
6. “If a woman doesn’t want to talk to me, it means ____________.”
7. “Relationships are _____________.”
What are your answers?
What would you WANT your answers to be?
What if you change your responses and associations to these things and turn them into positives? What would happen then?
Hmm… do you think a SMALL CHANGE in your associations can change your destination or destiny a year, 5 years, 10, or 20 years from now?
A small change in the moment can make a big difference down the road.
Instead of linking PAIN to going out, to meeting women, to approaching a girl, to getting physical with women, to going for a phone number or close, etc… you should link PLEASURE to these things.
Ask yourself, “What is it going to cost me if I DON’T go out and meet women and get this area of my life handled?”
Then ask yourself, “What are the BENEFITS/PLEASURE to going out and meeting women and getting this area of my life handled?”
But the first step is AWARENESS.
Be aware of the associations/meanings/beliefs you have in your head and make a conscious effort to change them.
Good luck!
Stefan
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